Oh! Thank you for the correction. I have a bad habit of speaking in definite terms when I really should not. I chock it up to my dyslexia. Thank you for correcting me so gently.Lisa_The_Brave_12 wrote: Wed Oct 22, 2025 8:44 amIt's not quite a "one size fits all" kind of matter (word play intended). It think you're right in that many girls don't experience pain during their first time at all. Some do though. Everyone's anatomy is a bit different. If you're tight down there and your partner is bigger it might hurt at first even with lots of foreplay.
The hymen can be in the way and it might tear. As you said it also often just stretches and opens up. But it's very individually different and there are no givens.
I think discussing this is important since many people (both guys and gals) are just unknowing on this topic.
Also, don't fear to bring up "touchy" subjects. I feel like this forum is quite open and non-judgemental.![]()
I want to add that I experienced a non-sexual hymen opening situation when I took a nasty spill in the shower when I was still in middle school. Luckily the doctor was able to explain the situation in a way my parents could understand. That's why I felt personally validated by you bringing the matter up.
Sadly the downside to the blood myth with losing one's virginity is if one does not include it, you often get readers questioning it. The myth is just that prevalent.
